Step 1: Approaching
The first thing to do is observe which women seem most approachable.You can do this by observing body language. For example, a woman sitting alone at the bar with legs crossed or women smiling as you walk near them. You do not want to approach a girl with obvious date. You want to avoide girls that look like they are having bad time or out to drink hustle guys. When approaching, try to make sure you are facing or walking in the same direction as the woman to appear nonthreatening. Also, it is better to make confident eye contact, by holding your gaze for 3 seconds. Also, don’t forget to smile while making eye contact. Watch her reaction for signs of intrest, like brushing her hair behind her ear, a smile back, laughing, or nervous look away. Then confidently approach her from a slight angle to appear nonethreatening. It does not matter, if you have to approach and she is across the room or sitting next to you at the bar. You will look more confident if you have to approach from across the venue or street. However, be aware of low hanging fruit in your proximity or women that actually approach you. You should start with girls near you, so you are not making up excuses or end up walking around the venue all night instead of having conversations with beautiful women. The women in your sorunding area and proximity are ussualy easer to meet. So, work from closes to farthest. Think like a football player would. Women near you are like a five yard run for first down. The women in the venue are like a 20 yard pass for a touchdown. The women outside the venue, in the street, or across the venue are like hail marry pass and not good odds, but when you catch one its exciting.
We all get nervous or have cold feet, but never let the fear of approaching stop you from approaching a beautiful woman and striking up a conversation or arranging a date anywhere, any place, or at any time. Sometimes you misread the eye contact or body language. This happens when you are new to the dating scene or have not been out in a while. However, if your first approaches do not work, dont worry because most women will let you down easy, but some will reject you hard. It is a numbers game, so do not get mad because it happens to the best of us. Just simply smile, walkaway, and use what work or didn’t for the next approach on a new woman.
Step 2: Itroduction
After you approah, you should introduce yourself. Humor ussually works best. Avoide saying "HI" because it makes you look socially akward. Go with a none chessy pick up line or situational humor introduction. For example, "Is this where all the cool people hangout". You can also go direct and tell her that you noticed her from accross the room and had to meet her or you would regret not taking the chance. After yor indruction, take about 5 minutes and hold normal conversation and get her name. Then say you are going to find your friends or get drink and you will see her around. do this for the first time you meet any woman in the room. This warms up the women in the room and makes it easer for you when you reapproach her ussing her name.
Rule of thumb: It takes about 1-3 approaches to start connecting in your home state or town, but it takes about 10-15 approaches to start connecting in different state or country. So the quicker you get those practice approaches out the way the sooner you will start connecting with beautiful women. The reason it takes a few practice approaches is to get over your anxiety or nervousness of talking to women. Women are very good at reading men and pick up on social subtleties consciously and unconsciously. Also, there is a learning curve to find the sweet spot for connecting with women. In new state or culture, it sometimes require getting use to the different environment or getting over culture shock.
(Note: Use good judgment because if she is married or in committed relationship with her boyfriend then she is spoken for. However, this should not stop you from approaching. She will let you know if she is already taken or you can ask if you are not sure. Be advised, some women will say they have a boyfriend to let guys down that she not interested in easy.)
Step 3: Closing
Also, some guys give up way too easy, if they believe the girl is not intreted right away, when they meet her. Don't get cofused if a set is not going well. It acctually is, if a girl is talking to you, and does not have boy friend. If you get her intrested then there is a good chance you can take her home that night or get her number and arrange to meet in more private place latter. Persistence and self-confidence will allow you to overcome her obsticles. Women test men to see if they are really intrested or confident.
After your approach, you will be able to gage how attracted she is to you based on her body language and words. This will let you know what kind of close you can do. If you hit it off from the bat, in terms of the physical and emotional chemistry, you can sleep together that night. However, if you approach and she is only sexual attracted, but does not see you two having the potential for long-term relationship, she may only make out with you that night and give you a fake number. If you approach she could be with her friends or have to work tomorrow morning, but available to meet up latter to continue the interaction, so you two exchange numbers for a date.
Step 4) Logistics
After the closing, the last step is too continually mange logistics and expectations of the relationship or interactions. Now that you have closed and have already hooked up, almost hooked up, or arrange for future date, it is time to move on to handling future dates and logistical meet ups. You can not get nervous over the phone or use the excuse “I don’t know what to say”. Keep it simple. It is easier for the both of you to progress the interaction, if you are self-confident and self-assured and not nervous and unassured.
A self-confident man will let the woman know he is interested in her. His first text, phone call, or conversation will be long the line of “I am interested in your personality, more than just your looks”. Here is an example of a text message to send.
“Been Thinking about you all day”
“Can’t wait to see
you again”
“Let’s get together for
drinks soon”
Note: You can send it one line at a time and wait on reply. Or, keep it simple and send all three lines at once, if you are pressed for time.
Most of your conversations and interactions will be along these lines. These lines will keep you out of saying the wrong thing that could damage the interaction or worrying about running out of things to say.
Final Note: keep options open until you are in committed relationship. This means not going after one woman but consistently working multiple women and leads. This keeps your value high and rising like at an auction, and more woman will bid and compete to win your affection.
CAUTION: IF IT A FEMALE APPROACHES YOU AND DRESSED PROVACTIVE SHE COULD BE A BLACK WIDOW. THE BLACK WIDOW SCAM INVOLVES GOING BACK TO YOUR HOTEL OR HOME AND SPIKING YOUR GLASS WITH STRONG POWDER TRANQUILIER. THEN WHEN YOU ARE PARLAYZED (POSSIBLY FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS) SHE WILL ROB YOU FOR ALL YOUR VALUABLES CASH, CELLPHONE, WATCH, ETC. SO KNOW YOUR SURRONDINGS. ONLY DRINK BOTTLED BEERS.
